Show that you need help

October 14, 2021
Markus Ahlberg

Last weekend I had some serious problems with my car: the battery was dead as dead so it wouldn't start. Thankfully I managed to get a friendly technician to look at it pretty quickly so my day's plans weren't completed upended. Martin, the friendly technician, was in my driveway within an hour and jumpstarted my car. I explained my plans and asked if he thought I could rely on my car. He assured me that it would. Within 5 minutes my partner, our two dogs and I hopped in and speed off towards Henley-on-Thames.

Upon returning to the car after a quick lunch at The Cheese Shed we found that our friendly technician wasn't 100% correct: the car refused to start. The battery had checked-out again leaving us stranded by a cheese shed. Thankfully, it didn't take more than a minute or two before a stranger offered to help: with the bonnet of our car wide open and me standing over it holding jumper cables, it was obvious that I needed help.

I strongly believe that people are kind and more than willing to help. You just have to make it easy for them to support you by making it clear what you need and how they can help. Waving the bright red jumper cables it was quite obvious what I needed. How do we show our struggles with our mental health and wellbeing? When someone asks us how we're doing we shy away and hide behind words like "fine", "good" or "keeping busy". What if we instead opened up and asked for help?

Do you need to get better at asking for help?

Ps. Thank you to the four (!) kind individuals who helped us with the car on Saturday.

PPs. The car now has a new battery.

Markus Ahlberg
Hi! I'm the founder of Feelmo. I'll be writing occasionally about my struggles in understanding and managing my feelings as well as about the emotional roller coaster ride that being an early-stage founder is.

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